Welcome to Unions of Love
A 4-week program with individual and partnered experiences in which you will learn a process for nurturing relationship agreements founded on mutual respect and a spirit of curiosity.
Perhaps this is your experience:
You began your relationship on a default escalator track that included a lot of ambiguity about what each of you actually wanted vs. what the culture told you that you were supposed to want.
It was an uncomfortable wake up call when you realized one day that it isn’t realistic for two people to meet ALL of each other’s needs for friendship, intimacy, shared interests, and desires.
You are the first people in your family or friend group to contemplate non-monogamy, so its hard to get help sorting out what kind of relationship the two of you actually want.
Welcome to Unions of Love
A 4-week program with individual and partnered experiences in which you will learn a process for nurturing relationship agreements founded on mutual respect and a spirit of curiosity.
Perhaps this is your experience:
You began your relationship on a default escalator track that included a lot of ambiguity about what each of you actually wanted vs. what the culture told you that you were supposed to want.
It was an uncomfortable wake up call when you realized one day that it isn’t realistic for two people to meet ALL of each other’s needs for friendship, intimacy, shared interests, and desires.
You are the first people in your family or friend group to contemplate non-monogamy, so its hard to get help sorting out what kind of relationship the two of you actually want.
Trust and intimacy thrive with honest conversations and clear, ongoing relationship agreements.
Relationship Agreements help with:
Clarity around what you desire in your relationship ecosystem
A Blueprint for how to communicate with your partner about relationship agreements without surrendering your values
A toolbox of strategies for how to care for yourself and your partner during activating conversations
Inspiring practices for honoring your relationships as the sacred alliances that they are
A plan for how to keep the conversation alive with your partner (because the conversation IS the relationship)
Hi, I’m Selene!
I’m passionate about the intersection of personal sovereignty and relational intimacy. I believe that coming into right relationship with self and other is fundamental to building a world where love and freedom thrive.
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I have many years experience helping kind, creative, pleasure seekers just like you build relationships based on what they want and need rather than on default cultural messages about how relationships are “supposed to be”.
I know first hand how challenging it can be to honor and attend to all the moving parts when monogamy agreements are in flux. I know that it is often complex, messy, and does not read like a textbook wish list for ideal kitchen table polyamory. I know this doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.
My relationship ecosystem has undergone many iterations, including transitioning a relationship that was monogamous for twenty-five years into a non-monogamous relationship that is eight years and counting, and stronger than ever.
Relationship Agreement Package
Individual Groundwork
You and your partner each get a private 90-minute session to explore your personal desires, fears, and boundaries before bringing them into the relationship.
Conscious Conversations
In a 4-hour guided session, you’ll practice clear, compassionate communication and co-regulation techniques to stay grounded as you explore sensitive topics. During this time, you’ll work together to draft a relationship agreement that honors both freedom and connection.
Optional Follow-Up
After you’ve had time to put your agreement into practice, we can check in and make adjustments as needed.
Logistics: What You Need to Know
Number and Length of Sessions:
Step 1: Individual Coaching – Two private 90-minute Zoom sessions (one for each partner).
Step 2: Joint Intensive Session – A 4-hour guided session (either virtually on Zoom or in-person in nature).
(Optional) Follow-Up Session – A 90-minute Zoom session to review and refine your agreement after you’ve had time to live into it.
How You’ll Interact with Me and Each Other:
Individual Sessions: We’ll explore your desires, fears, and boundaries privately before bringing them into the shared space.
Joint Intensive Session: You and your partner will engage in structured conversations, with my guidance to practice co-regulation, navigate emotional intensity, and co-create an agreement that works for both of you.
Between Sessions: Email support is available for quick questions or clarifications.
When you sign up, you’ll be given access to a scheduling calendar you can use to schedule your 1:1’s. The person who signs up will get a link for themselves, and one to share with the partner they are doing the program with. Once you’ve both completed your 1:1’s you’ll receive a link to sign up for your intensive, including a way to specify if you’d like it to be online or in person, and instructions for how to ensure a quality experience.
How to Sign Up:
To get started, visit [insert website link] and fill out a brief intake form. After submitting the form, you’ll receive an email with a link to schedule your initial sessions.
Individual Sessions: All private sessions take place on Zoom to allow for face-to-face interaction, regardless of location. You’ll receive a secure Zoom link before each session.
Joint Intensive Session: You have two options for this session:
Virtual Option: A 4-hour Zoom session with guided communication practice and relationship agreement creation.
In-Person Option: A 4-hour immersive session held outdoors in a natural setting (such as by a river or in a peaceful outdoor space). This option allows for a more embodied, grounded experience while engaging in these meaningful conversations.
This is for you if...
You have a history of monogamy together and you have a sense its time to explore something different
One or both of you is experiencing new relationship energy with someone else, but you want to make sure you take care of your existing relationship
This is not for you if…
You’re not both invested in the process
You need to work through big feelings about betrayal before you are ready to create new agreements (in that case, therapy might be a better fit)
Investment
$1000 (which means you can split it with a partner for $500 each)
FAQs
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This program is designed for couples (or relationship partners of any configuration) in long-term committed relationships who are curious about exploring non-monogamy but feel nervous or unsure about how to begin. It’s ideal for partners who value both freedom and connection and want to create agreements that feel authentic, supportive, and sustainable.
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That’s totally okay! This process is not about making a decision before you’re ready. The goal is to give you both the tools and space to explore what feels right for your relationship. Whether you decide to open your relationship or strengthen the container you already have, you’ll leave with greater clarity and deeper connection.
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The full process typically takes 3-5 weeks, depending on how quickly you choose to move through the steps:
Step 1: Individual Sessions – 90 minutes each (one for each partner).
Step 2: Joint Intensive Session – 4 hours (either virtually or in-person).
Optional Follow-Up Session – 90 minutes after you’ve had time to practice your agreement.
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Yes! You have options:
Virtual Option: All sessions can be conducted via Zoom, providing flexibility no matter where you are.
In-Person Option for Joint Session: The 4-hour intensive can take place in a natural outdoor setting (such as by a river or in a peaceful environment), offering a more embodied and grounded experience.
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The Joint Intensive Session is a supportive and structured space where you and your partner:
Practice clear, compassionate communication.
Explore sensitive topics while staying grounded through co-regulation techniques.
Collaboratively draft a relationship agreement that reflects your values, desires, and boundaries.
Whether conducted virtually or in person, this session is designed to create a container where both partners feel seen, heard, and respected. -
That’s exactly what the optional Follow-Up Session is for! After living into your new agreement, you may discover areas that need tweaking. In this session, we’ll revisit your agreement, make adjustments, and refine it to better support your evolving relationship. description
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Signing up is simple!
Fill out the intake form at [insert website link].
You’ll receive an email with a link to schedule your individual sessions.
Once individual sessions are complete, you’ll schedule your Joint Intensive Session.
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Item descriptionFor Zoom Sessions: A reliable internet connection and a quiet, private space where you can engage deeply.
For In-Person Sessions: Comfortable clothing and anything that supports your comfort outdoors (water, blanket, journal).
Notetaking materials (optional but helpful) for capturing insights and agreements.
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Pricing details can be found at [insert pricing link], and payment is due upon registration to secure your spot. Payment plans may be available—please inquire if needed.
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If you have any additional questions or need help deciding if this program is right for you, please feel free to email me at [insert contact email]. I’m happy to help!
Ready to get started?
Change Starts Today
Allow me to be your guide as you and a partner take steps to build structure and clarity for a relationship agreement that feels good to both of you. This offer includes individual time for each of you to prepare, followed by a half day coaching intensive designed to get you talking about what matters most to you in your relationship so you can build a relationship agreement that’s tailor made for you.
Questions?
I’d love to chat. Visit my contact page to reach out.